Perhaps I shouldn't have an opinion on this as a non-parent, however as a long-time educator the following story really made me think.When an Akron, Ohio, mother was treated with disrespect by her daughter, she decided to teach the 13-year-old a lesson by publicly punishing her on Facebook.
Mom humiliates daughter on Facebook to teach lesson
Denise Abbott swapped out her daughter Ava’s Facebook profile photo for an image of the teen with an “X” over her mouth and the caption, “I do not know how to keep my [mouth shut]. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why, my mom says I have to answer everyone that asks.”
Abbott says she was driven to do this after her daughter was rude and talked back to her in front of three of her friends.
“I was trying to think of something that would impact her so she would know what it felt like to be embarrassed in front of people,” Abbott said on the Today Show. “I think you need to have empathy to understand the situation.”
Public shaming is the latest parenting trend. In the past couple months several stories of parents embarrassing their kids in public have appeared in the news. In April in Swansea, Illinois, Montrail White forced his 8-year-old daughter, Melissa, to stand outside High Mount School wearing a sandwich board sign reading “I like to steal from others and lie about it!!” Montrail came up with the punishment because his daughter was stealing at home and took Halloween rings from a teacher at school.
That same month in Miami, Tarvon Young, a fifth grade student stood outside Richard Allen Leadership Academy holding a sign that read “I was sent to school to get an education. Not to be a bully… I was not raised this way!” Also, in Miami, a seventh grader was forced to stand outside holding a sign after he received three Fs on his report card in March.
I'm not every going to be convinced that shaming your children is a great way to discipline them! The behaviours described above read like the actions of bullies - the resulting harm to the kids would be considerable.
I understand that children require boundaries but a sledgehammer.